As men, we have a carnal inclination towards polygamy.

As a society, a man who succeeds in attaining "social" polygamy by hooking up with a large diverse array of fine women is deemed an alpha male.

When I think of the truly great and brilliant leaders of this generation present and past, names that come to mind are Abraham Lincoln, John D. Rockefeller, Cornelius Vanderbilt, Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Larry Page, Benjamin Franklin, George Washington, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Theodore Roosevelt, Alexander Bell, Andrew Carnegie, Frederick Douglas, J. P. Morgan, Nikola Tesla, Warren Buffett among countless others.

Their greatness and dominance stemmed from their ability to organize energy and effort in a way to achieve their clear goals in a way that also serves others. Each of these men, in my mind, exhibited tremendous self-control and stability of intellect.

If we desire such excellence (though we may not), where then does the role of "hooking up with women" for the sake of fulfilling our carnal pleasures fall into place. I do not fully oppose or suggest that such men had truly blemish-free internal romantic lives. And I do not suggest that neither shall we, for I myself have found great joy and happiness in the past on such experiences. However, I believe that we should insist that physical intimacy only be reserved for women of the highest caliber of our standards - worthy of total mind, spiritual, emotional and physical connection. Although she may not be "your wife", she should be worthy of being your wife if so situation or circumstances allow. We shall not settle for easy fixes. But rather, if you are to pursue a flirtatious kind of the opposite gender, she should be of such worthy caliber that you would have no shame proclaiming her to the world as yours.

She must be worth our time.